“Do not keep putting it off!” My mother kept repeating. “Your circumstances are never perfect for a child. You just have to make it when it’s that far and be thankful! “Well, maybe she’s right. Meanwhile I was 32. Still enough I thought, but the clock started ticking ever harder. We had already been married for four years and did not use contraception. I thought it was enough, but a pregnancy did not work out. I heard painful stories from friends who finally got pregnant after years of trying and sometimes even medical interventions. Or the grief of my dear previous neighbor who started ‘trying’ after she was 35 and who never succeeded. She, too, pressed my heart: “Start NOW! Work hard! Do not leave it to fate. “I was so much thrown around with this message that it seemed almost like a warning from the universe.
My husband also thought we had waited long enough, so we started Project Baby. He was particularly concerned that his intense way of life and exposure to hazardous chemicals when he was still in the army would have a negative effect on his over the counter fertility pills. I started to read like madman in scientific articles about fertility to increase our chances of success. And it worked!I am now 24 weeks pregnant and have already seen that it is a girl Update: Our moppie was born on April 1, 2015!
Getting pregnant tip 1: become aware of your body and cycle
The majority of women currently use hormonal contraception. As a result, you no longer have a natural cycle and ovulation. Many women therefore do not recognize what happens to their body when they stop contraception. Becoming aware of this again is an important step in getting pregnant quickly. Keep track of menstrual calendar apps or websites when and for how long you menstruate. For example, your natural cycle may not take 28 days, but shorter or longer. This affects again when your fertile period is. With these apps you can often keep track of your temperature and other information such as about your separation.
Keep track of your temperature
With the temperature method you measure every day around the same time, even before you get out of bed, your temperature, preferably with a digital thermometer. You start measuring on the first day of your period. After your ovulation your body temperature jumps up about 0.2 degrees, so you know when you have ovulated. So past time. It is a great way to gain insight into your cycle if you keep it up to date, but personally I found it too time consuming and cumbersome. My preference is for the separation method, because you know when you are actively ovulating.
Follow your separation
With a natural cycle you change your texture. When you get closer to your ovulation, your secretion becomes thinner and smoother due to the increase of estrogen. This makes sperm easier to swim to the egg. When the egg comes loose, the increase in progesterone causes your secretion to become thicker again, so that no new sperm can be added. According to a study by the University of North Carolina, women who monitored their secretions were 2.3 times as likely to get pregnant. In your fertile period you usually get more secretion and it looks like raw protein in consistency and color: a bit whitish transparent and sticky. You can even separate it a few centimeters without breaking it.
Use an ovulation test
Possibly you can confirm with an ovulation test in addition to the above methods if you are indeed fertile. Ovulation tests are very accurate, but not cheap. So by keeping an eye on your separation, you can at least better assess when you can use the test and save a lot of money.
Getting pregnant tip 2: better absorb sperm with an orgasm
Although an orgasm is not essential, it is a nice way to possibly increase your fertilization chance. According to the most popular theory your body ‘sucks up’ more sperm during an orgasm and your body will retain the sperm better after an orgasm, giving you more chance of becoming pregnant. Timing is important in this. According to British biologists Robin Baker and Mark Bellis, you only retain more semen if you have an orgasm one minute before or up to 45 minutes after your partner has ejaculated. Earlier or longer afterwards, much less sperm is retained.
Getting pregnant tip 3: use a suitable lubricant
If you use lubricant, its ingredients can make it a bit more difficult for the sperm cells to reach their destination. Most types of lubricants contain ingredients that are toxic to sperm cells or disrupt your cervical mucus. The best lubricant is of course foreplay. If you can also do without and you want to get pregnant, then spend extra time for cuddling, foreplay, etc. But for those who unfortunately only are not enough, there are also special sperm-friendly lubricants on the market. A product that I can recommend is Yes Baby, a natural and completely biological lubricant that has the right PH-value and composition so that the sperm is not obstructed or killed. In each package there are also 5 ovulation tests, so you do not have to buy them separately. The packages are sent from the United Kingdom and arrive quickly. For orders over 50 euros, you pay no shipping costs.
Getting pregnant tip 4: be open to your pregnancy
This is perhaps a crazy tip because you do not read this article for anything! Yet we sometimes have unconscious emotional or mental blockages that can possibly also impede a pregnancy. Are you afraid, for example, that you will not actually become a good parent? Or that you pass negative patterns of your parents to your own children? Are you afraid your situation is not up to you? Your house is too small or you do not have enough money? That your relationship cannot survive? According to the bhakti tradition, the path I practice, we all have lessons that we need to learn in this life to develop ourselves. When a soul decides to incarnate, it chooses the parents and circumstances necessary to learn those lessons.
Forgive yourself for your shortcomings and accept that your life will never be perfect for a child. Work on yourself, meditate, strengthen your intuition, talk about it with friends, pour out your heart anonymously on online forums or consult a qualified therapist. The fact that you want to conceive a child very consciously creates a loving atmosphere in which the soul of your future child will feel welcome.
Getting pregnant tip 5: hood with caffeine
Many people are often addicted to caffeine, often without being aware of it at all. A glass of cola here, a cup of coffee there, another piece of chocolate or a cup of tea … You’ll soon find 150-250 mg of caffeine a day. And then hope you do not use energy drinks, because they often contain more than that. Unfortunately, several studies have shown that caffeine negatively affects the chance of getting pregnant and staying pregnant. Women who consume more than 200 mg of caffeine in a day are more than twice as likely to miscarry. It also often takes longer for women to get pregnant when using caffeine. According to a study, the chance of getting pregnant halves if a woman drinks more than one cup of coffee per day. In another study of women who underwent IVF treatment, even a small amount per day (50mg) already had a negative effect on the outcome of becoming pregnant and staying. The how and what is not yet fully known, but scientists suspect that caffeine has a negative effect on oocytes and maturation.
In addition, the baby also gets caffeine through the placenta. If you ingest caffeine every day, your baby will become addicted to it in your stomach. Try to stop cold turkey yourself with caffeine if you use it daily. Headache, nausea, irritation, lack of energy … caffeine is a socially accepted but actually quite heavy drug. So stop before you try to get pregnant. There are many tasty caffeine-free alternatives available, such as Rooibos or caffeine / tea-free coffee and tea that have been decaffeinated in a natural way.
Getting pregnant tip 6: Do not drink alcohol
Meanwhile, everyone knows that alcohol and pregnancy do not go together. But according to Swedish researchers, the consumption of just two glasses of alcoholic beverages already reduces your fertility by 60%. Limit your alcohol intake even before you are pregnant to increase your chance of getting pregnant. And as soon as you suspect that you are pregnant, of course stop alcohol altogether, because alcohol use increases the risk of miscarriage. Fortunately, there are now also tasty decentralized wines and non-alcoholic beers.
Getting pregnant tip 7: Stop smoking and avoid passive smoking
Smoking reduces your fertility. In women, smoking reduces the receptiveness of the uterus to the egg, while in men smoking reduces sperm production and quality and damages DNA. In addition, complications can occur if you continue to smoke during your pregnancy, such as more risk of miscarriage, preterm birth, lung disease, heart problems, low birth weight or even stillbirth. Sometimes a doctor can advise a pregnant woman to continue smoking because the stress of stopping carries more risks than the other risks. But if you are consciously trying to become pregnant, stop both for the well-being of your child (even second-hand smoke is harmful) before you become pregnant, so that you have already had the stress behind and can give your child a healthy start.
Getting pregnant tip 8: Move regularly
According to a study by the University of North Carolina, women who were active before and during their fertility treatment were three times as likely to become pregnant compared to women who were not active. They not only looked at movement through sports, but also during housekeeping and work. So make sure you are actively working to increase your chances of getting pregnant. Extreme or hard sports can be too much of a good thing and have a negative effect on your hormonal balance, so your menstrual cycle can become out of balance and the egg can not implant properly. If you do sports, do it at such a level that you could still have a conversation.
Getting pregnant tip 9: Avoid stress
Maybe you have ever been advised not to be too busy with pregnancy. “Relax and put it out of your head, then it happens automatically!” Stress can indeed have a negative effect on your fertility, so avoid stress and relax! Provide physical, mental and emotional well-being. With persistent stress, your body makes the stress hormone cortisol, which disrupts your menstrual cycle and reduces your fertility. Sport, enjoy, write down problems, meditate, walk, read a good book or watch a good movie – do what you find fun and relaxing.
Getting pregnant tip 10: Strive for a healthy weight
Both overweight and underweight reduce your chances of getting pregnant. Researchers looked at the BMI of 2112 pregnant women. The women who had a BMI of 25-39 before their pregnancy (prevalence) were twice as likely to get pregnant. But a BMI of less than 19 was also not healthy. Then it took no less than four times longer. So ensure a healthy weight. Sport, eat healthy and keep your BMI between 18.5 and 24.9 to increase your chances of getting pregnant.
Getting pregnant tip 11: Eat healthily
Eat varied and nutritious. Use as much as possible original and unprocessed products, preferably also biologically to prevent any adverse effects of chemical pesticides. With enough vitamins, proteins, fiber and fats, your body is better prepared for a pregnancy.
Getting pregnant tip 12: Provide sufficient omega fatty acids
Omega fatty acids, such as omega 3 from fish and linseed oil, have a positive effect on your chances of getting pregnant. DHA, one of the fatty acids from fish oil, also improves the sperm quality, so also improve the diet of your partner! Sources of other important omega fatty acids are avocado, olive oil, algae oil (a vegetarian and mercury-free source of DHA) and evening primrose oil .